Over these last four weeks, we have been considering the
call to both marriage and the religious life.
We have studied their fundamental differences and have also discovered
their mutual complementarity. These
reflections were an attempt to highlight the beauty and the richness of both of
these vocations so as to aid some readers in their personal discernment. I certainly hope this goal was accomplished. Yet, I want to close with a word of caution
and an exhortation.
First of
all, the word of caution: In your
discernment, don’t get lost in the world of lofty theology and overly-sentimental
idealism. The theology is beautiful
brothers, and it is all true. However,
our knowledge and understanding of marriage and the religious life is helpful only insofar as it leads us to a true
encounter with Jesus Christ! Sacred
Scripture tells us that Jesus is the author of our salvation. If that’s true, then that means He is also
the author of our vocations.
Vocational
discernment and vocational choice take place in the context of a relationship
with Jesus. And as our relationship with
Him grows, eventually he asks us the same question he asked those two “vocation
visitors” in John’s Gospel 2,000 years ago, “What do you seek?” (Jn 1:38). And so begins the dialogue, the open and
honest dialogue with Jesus regarding the deepest and truest desires of our
hearts. On one hand, the answer to the
question “what do you seek?” is “You, Jesus!
I come seeking you.” That response is true regardless of what marriage we are
called to.
But, we also
recognize that Jesus is calling us to something specific, something
personal. And it takes time and it may
take struggle—struggle with ourselves and struggle with God—in order to arrive
at a place where we can freely choose the vocation that God is calling us to.
We may be
really attracted to religious life while also having a deep desire for
marriage, secretly wondering, “Can I really be happy without a wife and
children?” Or maybe our hearts contain a
question or a fear of a different sort:
“Can I be holy without becoming a priest or religious?” The answer to both questions is YES, ABSOLUTELY, DEFINITIVELY...as long as
God is not calling you to that respective vocation! Our happiness
and holiness will be found in
whatever vocation God is calling us to!
The Second Vatican Council states quite clearly that “all Christians in any state or walk of life
are called to the fullness of Christian life and to the perfection of love” (Lumen Gentium 40). So again, the question is “which marriage or
which vocation is God calling you to?”
Discovering
the answer to that question will depend largely on the answer to another
question, and here comes the promised exhortation. The question is: Can we trust God? The answer and exhortation is: YES!
Can we trust that God has a plan for our lives? YES!
Can we trust Him with the deepest desires of our hearts? YES!
Does he want us to be happy? Can
He make us happy? YES! YES!
And He will do so if we keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, “the pioneer
and perfecter of our faith” (Heb 12:2), the one who “came that [we] may have
life, and have it abundantly” (Jn 10:10).
God bless you all!
Fr. Isaac Mary Spinharney, CFR
St. Joseph
Friary
Harlem, NY
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